Trusting In Other People’s Process’: Let Them

Introduction

There is much to learn from other people and the ways in which they do things, and there are times it looks like their ways aren’t working and need a lot of help. In truth, they may actually be struggling, but those are the ways they need in order to figure out their situation in life.

For us on the outside, we see someone we know having a hard time and know we can help them solve it. Therefore, we interject ourselves in order for them to see what they need and then move forward in their situation. This can be very helpful at times, but in other circumstances can actually be hindering in the ways they need to learn. Allowing them to go through their situation without interjecting can be one of the hardest and yet most helpful things a person can do.

Let Them Do What They Want

“Stop wasting your energy trying to control or change other people.”
— A quote from The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins

There are many ways in which to help others, and one of them is leaving them to figure it out, which also includes figuring out that they need to ask for help. Learning that without being told is actually a very important lesson for everyone to learn. Learning can get hindered when the answer is given to you all the time.

To have full experiences from beginning to end is very important for the growth and development of every single person. You are not helping them if they can’t develop their own problem-solving skills.

No Need to Worry

In some cases, the reason why we interject in other people’s situations is because we are worried about them, and believe giving them help — when it isn’t directly asked for — is a loving thing to do. This is actually true.

However, there is a point when our worry can have the same impact on a person’s growth and development that was talked about in the last section. Every single person is always cared for by the Divine, and will always end up exactly where they need to be for the life experience their soul is here to have.

If there is anything you feel could be of really great help to someone, and you are not sure if it's ok to intervein; then ask them first, and accept whatever answer they give you.

Let Them Think How They Want

We all think quite a lot of things in every second we are awake, including a lot of unconscious thoughts we are not at all aware of. It’s ok to let people think negatively or however they might be thinking about you or anyone else.

Focusing more on how you want to think for yourself is all that is needed by you — and the rest will eventually work itself out. Let them think it.

Opinions in Conversations

It’s also common to see people trying to convince another of their opinions or how they think the other should believe. There is an aligned way to voice your view and an unaligned way to voice your view.

If your intention is for the other person to change their mind when they haven’t expressed a wish to do so, then it isn’t aligned — and depending on how you come across, it could trigger old emotional trauma. However, if you are expressing your view without the need for others to agree or disagree with you, then it is aligned.

Let people think and express where they are, without the need to control where people want to take the conversation.

The most common piece that gets missed in these conversations is the fact that everyone wants to be right. There are too many moments in our lives where we were told our opinions were wrong, to feel secure in other people’s opposite opinions to our own today.

Just because someone else has a different opinion than you, and may disagree with you, does not mean you are wrong or that you need to change or defend the opinion you just gave.

Conclusion

There is so much on this topic that I didn’t cover, but all that needs to be understood is that when you let them do and think whatever they want, with wherever they are in their life, you will always end up right where you need to be, and so will they.

Things will always end up working themselves through. The Divine is always there by your side, guiding and supporting you through every part of your life’s journey, and only needs your permission to help when you need it.

Helpful Affirmations

“I let go of control and allow people to just be.”

“I let people believe what they like and follow my own path.”

Try This Today

Believe in something you wish others would believe in, and then ask yourself how difficult that would be if you didn’t believe in it already and were asked to change your belief right on the spot.

Wishing you love, health and harmony

Janette