Things are always moving, and that includes the energy in our minds and body.
Except, this movement doesn’t always feel very good and can come about in ways we feel are against us.

For example, when our body gets sick or experiences unexplained pain. For a lot of people, this happens so often it becomes common to believe their body is against them, that it just doesn’t want to be healthy or work properly to support a good life.

However, this is actually not the case.

There are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to forgetting. We have this idea that when some people forget more often than what is considered normal, they’re either getting old, becoming mentally unhealthy, or being disorganized. And yes, that can be true.

However, there are other reasons why forgetting occurs, and this blog post is to help people understand the benefits of forgetting that can actually be quite healthy.

When we speak, we tend to say what we feel we need to say and are conscious of about 54% of the words that come out of our mouths. The rest is unconscious and emerges in a more automatic way. Here’s the thing: every word we say carries energy and leaves an imprint on the world around us. Even if no one is physically present to hear our words, their energy is still received by the universe and reflected back to us through everyday circumstances.

An intention is something you say or think in order to bring it into your reality. You express it so it can become real for you. However, there is a hard truth to this—everything you say or think is an intention, whether you want it to be or not. Every spoken or internalized thought is either in the process of becoming real in your physical space or has already manifested.

In the majority of my blogs, I talk about different belief systems and ways to help you change your mind. When you are changing your belief systems to something more positive, you are accomplishing Step 1 of changing your life. In this blog post, I want to talk a little more about Step 2: Embodiment. Reprogramming your mind is exactly how you start the process, but you likely won’t see the results you are looking for until you embody your new belief systems as well.

Every day, we are faced with people, places, and situations—some we plan for and others we don’t. When unexpected things happen, they can sometimes seem out of the blue or entirely random. However, what if I told you they weren’t? What if I told you there are no coincidences and nothing is ever random? Years ago, I used to say, "That was random!" without realizing that, in reality, I was attracting every single situation, person, and place into my experience. These things are not always as they seem, but they can always be explained once you understand what your personal energy is doing every day.

Feeling accepted is such a deeply rooted need in our society—to feel accepted by our family, friends, peers, and anyone else we meet. This shows itself in how we speak to each other and how we act. The term “people pleasing” gets tossed around a lot and is a common part of how we choose to interact with others. Most of us are unknowingly trying very hard to fit into not only our small social groups but all of society as well. To please society, we say and do what we know will make us feel accepted. So, what does it sound and look like to just be who we truly are instead of how everyone else wants us to be?

Depending on which study you read, it is said that a person can have about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts a day. We have an understanding that a "belief" represents a specific informational viewpoint of a topic. However, most thoughts and viewpoints can come through giving you a positive feeling or negative feeling, therefore representing the belief system behind it. It is also said that about 80% of the average person’s thoughts are negative. Having more negative thoughts than positive ones will greatly affect your entire life and overall health. Your belief systems are the foundations that your whole life stands on.

There are times when someone asks you a question, and despite an honest attempt to think of an answer, you come up blank. In those moments, a perfectly reasonable response might be, “I don’t know.” However, this phrase can also become an automatic response when your mental plate is already overflowing. It’s often the simplest answer when you feel overwhelmed and can’t handle even one more question. Or, maybe you’ve been searching endlessly for a solution to a problem, but exhaustion takes over, and you blurt out, “I don’t know!”

When you try to figure everything out through sheer mental effort, constantly staying in “action mode,” it’s no wonder that you experience fatigue.

We tend to associate the Ego with arrogance, but it’s actually much more than that. The majority of us make decisions based on what we “think” is right and react according to what our minds deem appropriate. Over the whole span of our lives and especially when we are children, we unconsciously adopt a mix of other people's personality traits, integrating them into our own, by watching and listening. Alongside the effects of life experiences—both positive and negative—we form a personality that we come to believe is authentic.

While there are authentic aspects within our current personalities, including traits inherited through DNA, much of what we identify as "me" is actually programming and trauma responses. Our true self lies buried beneath all of this, and what we present to the world is often our Ego—the construct that lives in our minds and believes it is real.

Sometimes there are moments when you face a situation where you don’t believe the outcome will be anything other than one specific thing, and the automatic response tends to be the phrase, “Well, it is what it is.” Usually, these situations are ones that feel a little disappointing or mediocre. For example, you had a wonderful day planned, but the weather turned unexpectedly and forced you to cancel your plans. Or you go out to buy food, only to see the price has gone up—and, of course, you need to pay it anyway. These are just two examples of many that can easily end with the phrase, “It is what it is” — or is it?

Making mistakes is normal and an essential part of how you learn, but there are moments when it feels like getting anything “right” is impossible. Maybe you keep finding yourself in unhealthy relationships or struggle with each new job you try. You may look around and see others thriving, making it work for themselves, and wonder why you aren’t able to make the same good connections. Or perhaps you do know why, but you have no idea how to fix your situation. In these cases, some people start to believe they are broken.

Here’s another truth to consider: No one is ever broken, no matter the circumstance.

For thousands of years, it’s been said that showing your emotions and being soft is weakness. Today, more people are speaking up, saying that it’s okay to be emotional, but too many of us are still in an old place of hiding our emotions. In other words, to look strong and be strong is to be emotionless.

How many times have you experienced a personal loss and, to “be strong” for others, you didn’t show how much you were in pain? Now, I’m going to tell you a hard truth: that is not real strength. That is a deeply embedded, unconscious fear against showing your emotions to avoid judgment. That is called mental control, which is considered a type of strength, so you don’t have to face what you’re really hiding.

The moments when people point fingers, blame you, and criticize you can feel pretty awful. It’s common to then blame those people in return for their mean words and actions, creating a victim cycle of finger-pointing and blame that goes back and forth. The belief is that the other person "made" you feel bad because of what they said or did. If you call them out, their perspective might be that you made them feel bad for your blame in return. Things then escalate, build up, and rarely resolve.

The perspective that another person can “make you feel bad” comes from a limited belief system that’s been passed down through generations and societal norms. The truth is, no one can “make” you feel anything you don’t want to. This includes yourself. Some people internalize their pain in these situations and blame themself. Whether you are blaming the other person, or blaming yourself, there is another way that doesn’t require you to feel “bad”.

You are programmed from birth to know how to be, what to say, and when to say it. As a child, you were a sponge for everything you heard and saw around you. Since you didn’t know anything else, you absorbed everything you witnessed and became a reflection of your adult role models. How you think, feel, and respond completely shapes the type of life you experience on a day-to-day basis.

But what if, by the time you’re an adult, you’re not enjoying your life as much as you’d like to? What if every day feels like a struggle just to get through it? What if you’re so tired of how things always turn out that you’re desperate for any kind of change?

It is said that our thoughts are like an iceberg. Our conscious beliefs represent the part of the iceberg visible above water—about 30%—while the other 70% lies beneath the surface, representing our unconscious beliefs. These belief systems literally create our individual realities and shape how we experience the world. If 70% of those beliefs are unconscious, it’s no wonder the majority of how our lives look and feel is shaped by thoughts and beliefs we don’t even know we have.

So many times, I see people struggling with something, but they don't say anything about it because they don’t believe others will understand. They don’t notice that others might be going through the same thing, so they end up feeling isolated in their challenges.

Self-sabotage is often tricky to recognize. While it’s easy to notice patterns, traits, or behaviors in others, spotting them in yourself can feel as challenging as trying to read a book lying flat on your face.

So, how do you know if self-sabotage is sneaking into your life? Start by looking at how opportunities and daily tasks are turning out for you.

Having others share their opinions about your work, whether at home or in your career, can feel like either constructive criticism or outright judgment. The distinction often lies in how the feedback is delivered.

My life hasn’t always revolved around helping others with mindset and energy healing. In fact, it’s often true that those who dedicate their lives to supporting others have had to navigate their own struggles first. My journey to where I am today has been no exception.

Do you ever feel like life is one endless race? We hurry to get to work, finish tasks, make appointments, and check off every item on our to-do lists—all in the hope of finally having time to do what we love. But here’s the catch: for many of us, that extra time never seems to appear.

Instead, rushing through life often leaves us feeling more stressed, less fulfilled, and still pressed for time. If this sounds familiar, ask yourself: why am I in such a hurry? Is there a way to slow down and gain more from my day without losing productivity?