You are programmed from birth to know how to be, what to say, and when to say it. As a child, you were a sponge for everything you heard and saw around you. Since you didn’t know anything else, you absorbed everything you witnessed and became a reflection of your adult role models. How you think, feel, and respond completely shapes the type of life you experience on a day-to-day basis.

But what if, by the time you’re an adult, you’re not enjoying your life as much as you’d like to? What if every day feels like a struggle just to get through it? What if you’re so tired of how things always turn out that you’re desperate for any kind of change?

It is said that our thoughts are like an iceberg. Our conscious beliefs represent the part of the iceberg visible above water—about 30%—while the other 70% lies beneath the surface, representing our unconscious beliefs. These belief systems literally create our individual realities and shape how we experience the world. If 70% of those beliefs are unconscious, it’s no wonder the majority of how our lives look and feel is shaped by thoughts and beliefs we don’t even know we have.

So many times, I see people struggling with something, but they don't say anything about it because they don’t believe others will understand. They don’t notice that others might be going through the same thing, so they end up feeling isolated in their challenges.

Self-sabotage is often tricky to recognize. While it’s easy to notice patterns, traits, or behaviors in others, spotting them in yourself can feel as challenging as trying to read a book lying flat on your face.

So, how do you know if self-sabotage is sneaking into your life? Start by looking at how opportunities and daily tasks are turning out for you.

Having others share their opinions about your work, whether at home or in your career, can feel like either constructive criticism or outright judgment. The distinction often lies in how the feedback is delivered.

My life hasn’t always revolved around helping others with mindset and energy healing. In fact, it’s often true that those who dedicate their lives to supporting others have had to navigate their own struggles first. My journey to where I am today has been no exception.

Do you ever feel like life is one endless race? We hurry to get to work, finish tasks, make appointments, and check off every item on our to-do lists—all in the hope of finally having time to do what we love. But here’s the catch: for many of us, that extra time never seems to appear.

Instead, rushing through life often leaves us feeling more stressed, less fulfilled, and still pressed for time. If this sounds familiar, ask yourself: why am I in such a hurry? Is there a way to slow down and gain more from my day without losing productivity?

A small thought of just two words might seem insignificant, but everything you say—even the smallest phrases—creates an effect that reinforces your experiences.

Take the difference between saying, “I can’t” and “I can.” Each builds a foundation of energy that unconsciously spreads into many areas of your life. So, which foundation would you rather build for your experiences?

One of the most common traits we all share is overthinking. Especially when faced with making a solid decision, overthinking can leave us feeling stressed and make every choice seem complicated.